When to Seek Therapy?


“We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.” -Anais Nin

When you feel like things in your life are unclear, stuck or hard most of the time—and you feel like you are just spinning your wheels….it may be the time to slow down and pause and reach out for support. Therapy is a different experience than talking with a trusted friend or family member; A therapist’s goal is —to listen to you, and provide you a  sense of reflection , so that you may better understand your own needs and feelings through a mutual exchange of safety.

I will work with you to identify patterns, thoughts and feelings that are no longer serving you ;  and help you to develop tools and coping strategies to live more authentically.

We may learn tools to identify the feelings that are keeping us stuck, or hurt in self -destructive patterns. Like a river, our feelings and thoughts are not set in stone…. we can learn ways in which to not get stuck in the river. Reaching out is a sign of courage, The choice is always yours!! Change is up to you!

Anxiety and depression often occur when there is a preoccupation with the past or fear about the future which can feel as if these feelings are impeding our work or life, then it may be  time for therapy. Much of the work of therapy involves becoming more aware of the present moment and finding ways to return to it without avoidance. I think one of the challenges of being human is living in a world where things are not black and white. Therapy can help you become more comfortable living in a gray space where there is uncertainty, ambivalence, or inner conflict.

  •      Therapy can help you to:

    • Improve  relationships with others
    • Learn more effective communication strategies
    • Develop coping skills to manage worry and stress
    • Process unresolved traumas or overwhelming experiences
    • Have a space to explore intrusive feelings, thoughts and emotions
    • Develop a stronger sense of self and self-confidence
    • Personal growth!!
    • Improve relationship with yourself!
    • How do I know if my  teen needs therapy?

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Has your child has experienced a sudden change or loss?  Have they encountered some significant life events that have impacted their emotions or behaviors for a period of time? Are they  having a difficult time at school with academics or getting along with peers? Maybe, you child or teen just seems sad and angry most of the some? Do you wish parenting felt easier and less stressful? I can help!

Signs that a teen could benefit from therapy:

  • Behavioral problems (such as excessive anger, acting out, bed wetting)
  • A significant drop in grades, particularly if your child normally maintains high grades
  • Episodes of sadness, tearfulness, or depression
  • Social withdrawal or isolation
  • Being the victim of bullying or bullying other children
  • Decreased interest in previously enjoyed activities
  • Overly aggressive behavior (such as biting, kicking, or hitting)
  • Insomnia or increased sleepiness
  • Mood swings (e.g., happy one minute, upset the next)
  • Adjustment to life changes, parents divorce, parenting time, new siblings, blended families, loss of a loved one
  • Sexual, physical, or emotional abuse or other traumatic events
  • Sad, angry or picking arguments/tantrums most days.
Here’s the link to  my article in the May, 2016’s NW KIDS magazine about” Children and Therapy” titled: “It takes a Village”.: http://www.nwkidsmagazine.com/2016/06/it-takes-a-village/
I offer a free 20 minute phone consultation to see if we are a good fit, feeling at ease with your therapist is essential ingredient towards change. Please call for an appointment. (971)222-9290 .

If you have immediate concerns about your teens safety call your doctor or 911  and talk to them about these concerns to rule out any medical conditions that may be impacting your child’s feelings and behavior.

    Crisis and Support Lines

   Multnomah County Crisis Line – (503) 988 – 4888
   Washington County Crisis Line – (503) 291 – 9111
   Portland Women’s Crisis Line – (888) 235 – 5333
   Adolescent Crisis Intervention and Counseling – (800) 999 – 9999
   Child Abuse Hotline – (800) 4-A-CHILD (800 – 422 – 4453)